this issue of modesty is very close to my heart. i could talk about this topic for hours.
i will apologize in advance for my ramblings..
(sorry)
i feel a responsibility not only to myself but for as a follower of Christ.
a wife.
a sister in Christ.
to protect the eyes of my brother's in Christ.
to protect the eyes of my best friend's husband.
someone's soon to be husband.
to enjoy someone's body that is not your wives or husbands is wrong.
i just recently got married.
(best choice i have ever made!!)
he has a lot of qualities that stand out and against so many other people.
he loves Jesus.
he challenges me.
he loves me.
(and soooooo much more, that's for another post :)
but the issue of modesty is close to his heart as well.
when we first started dating he made it very clear that he didn't like to see me in a bikini, in public.
he didn't want other men and other brother's in Christ to stumble.
he didn't want other men to enjoy my body, especially if i could someday be HIS wife.
i grew up around lots of boys.
three brothers and mostly boy cousins.
i never saw the big deal to wear a bikini if i was around my "family"
although i usually always wore shorts with my bikini...
(i have stretch-marks on my hips..shhh!)
my husband to be (then) saw a HUGE problem in that.
guys are guys. regardless if they are a cousin.
a neighbor passing by as you guys are swimming or whatever.
he made it very clear he did not like it.
naturally being as independent and stubborn as i am. i fought him.
thinking he was just being selfish. he was only thinking about himself.
obviously over time-my heart softened.
i realized i was wrong.
i also realized that he had every right to be selfish because we were dating not just to date or add another boyfriend/girlfriend to your belt.
we were dating with the idea of marriage ahead of us.
here i am now. almost two years later....i am sitting on the couch writing this blog and my new husband is laying right next to me sleeping.
(his fillings came out, he's in a lot of pain)
as i look back my heart aches at my desires to not get a farmers tan from wearing a t-shirt over my bathing suit instead of wanting to protect my brother in Christ's eyes.
i'm not angry but im soooooooo thankful for a husband who wants to be selfish and who wants to be the only one who is able to appreciate my body.
i'm thankful the Lord has softened my heart.
the Lord has blessed me with a man who first and foremost LOVES the Lord. i am soooo thankful to be married to man who seeks the Lord passionately.
with that said, my heart is still under construction. i feel myself healing.(that's a victory!!)
but i also find myself dealing with painful part of being a victim of sexual abuse and being newly married.
prayers are always appreciated.
i will apologize in advance for my ramblings..
(sorry)
i feel a responsibility not only to myself but for as a follower of Christ.
a wife.
a sister in Christ.
to protect the eyes of my brother's in Christ.
to protect the eyes of my best friend's husband.
someone's soon to be husband.
to enjoy someone's body that is not your wives or husbands is wrong.
i just recently got married.
(best choice i have ever made!!)
he has a lot of qualities that stand out and against so many other people.
he loves Jesus.
he challenges me.
he loves me.
(and soooooo much more, that's for another post :)
but the issue of modesty is close to his heart as well.
when we first started dating he made it very clear that he didn't like to see me in a bikini, in public.
he didn't want other men and other brother's in Christ to stumble.
he didn't want other men to enjoy my body, especially if i could someday be HIS wife.
i grew up around lots of boys.
three brothers and mostly boy cousins.
i never saw the big deal to wear a bikini if i was around my "family"
although i usually always wore shorts with my bikini...
(i have stretch-marks on my hips..shhh!)
my husband to be (then) saw a HUGE problem in that.
guys are guys. regardless if they are a cousin.
a neighbor passing by as you guys are swimming or whatever.
he made it very clear he did not like it.
naturally being as independent and stubborn as i am. i fought him.
thinking he was just being selfish. he was only thinking about himself.
obviously over time-my heart softened.
i realized i was wrong.
i also realized that he had every right to be selfish because we were dating not just to date or add another boyfriend/girlfriend to your belt.
we were dating with the idea of marriage ahead of us.
here i am now. almost two years later....i am sitting on the couch writing this blog and my new husband is laying right next to me sleeping.
(his fillings came out, he's in a lot of pain)
as i look back my heart aches at my desires to not get a farmers tan from wearing a t-shirt over my bathing suit instead of wanting to protect my brother in Christ's eyes.
i'm not angry but im soooooooo thankful for a husband who wants to be selfish and who wants to be the only one who is able to appreciate my body.
i'm thankful the Lord has softened my heart.
the Lord has blessed me with a man who first and foremost LOVES the Lord. i am soooo thankful to be married to man who seeks the Lord passionately.
with that said, my heart is still under construction. i feel myself healing.(that's a victory!!)
but i also find myself dealing with painful part of being a victim of sexual abuse and being newly married.
prayers are always appreciated.
